Let’s start with this brilliant musical theatre duet:
I admit that I am pretty easily manipulated if you frame something in terms of my ego, for example, our household’s longstanding Quilt Challenge. My husband has very openly stated that he would love it if I would make a quilt, but he knows that I couldn’t do it. Despite this pathetically obvious attempt to use reverse psychology (in reality, my husband believes that I can do anything), I have totally fallen for it and I know damn well that someday I will make a quilt! My excuse now is that I don’t really have a sewing room or even a sewing spot and our cats would sleep on it and it’s actually really expensive to get started and I also don’t own a sewing machine.
But god damn it, I’m going to sew a quilt one day and make M Fox eat it.
The problem with pregnancy Dos and Don’ts is that it’s not just about your ego; your choices affect the life (or lives, in my case) of a blissfully ignorant little creature who is happily jabbing you in the cervix because it’s so excited that its limbs move. Awww.
There are the undebatable Don’ts — like you can’t chug a Long Island Iced Tea, shoot up some heroin, and then hop on Space Mountain.
To be fair, you probably shouldn’t do that when you’re not pregnant, but ESPECIALLY when you’re pregnant, such behavior is frowned upon.
The dietary Dos and Don’ts are mostly a matter of common sense and personal preference. Apparently you’re not supposed to eat cantaloupe, fro-yo, or turkey sandwiches. I say (and, remember, I am a doctor*) use your best judgment. If you want to live off of goldfish and the occasional grape (after drudging it in vinegar to get off the poison), then hey, go ahead. If, like a certain Classy Dame, you want to drink diet soda and gorge yourself on sushi, then hey, go ahead. Pregnancy safety is a matter of statistics and paying attention to statistics is, oddly enough, totally subjective. *No I’m not
But that’s a conversation that a lot of people have already talked themselves hoarse over.
The thing that I find most oppressive about pregnancy is the conversation that goes beyond eating, drinking, and going to Disneyland or Space Camp — it falls into either the pitying with concern (“How are you going to be able to do that?”) or the pitying with certainty (“You realize that you won’t be able to do that ever again”) category.